The biggest reason for my smile is when my daughter calls me “Ma”.
I’m a four-year-old mom. Yes, you read that right. I call myself a ‘four-year-old mother’ because the day my girl was born, I was reborn as a mother and my life changed completely. How beautiful that moment is for any mother, when she holds her new-born for the first time in her hands and feels her skin for the first time. The feeling is surreal. The joy of that moment can’t be explained in words but the sight and the emotions are still fresh in my mind.
My daughter is a breath of fresh air which can become a hurricane in no time. She is like a mini-me. She loves to explore and loves to enjoy little things in life.
Initially, I thought that raising a child was going to be a very tough task, but over the years, I understood that I am raising a wonderful human being. I am her everything – I am a life coach who is constantly teaching her about life, I am her bodyguard protecting her and shielding her from the difficulties in life, I am her guide, I am her mentor, I am her everything, making her ready for life.
While I saw my little tot growing up in front of my eyes, I realised that I too was growing up with her – I was growing up as a person, and the more I taught her, the more I learned from her. Growing up with her, it dawned on me the pain my parents must have gone through to make me who I am today. It’s a continuous process of nurturing, and I do not believe there is any set parenting rule, what all a parent does for the child is the best he could do and the with the changing times and changing needs of the child, we have to adjust the approach.
It is said that – “Being a mother is not about what you gave up to have the child, but what you have gained from having one.” What I gained from having my child is something I would love to share. I am a very ambitious person, and when my daughter was born, I chose to quit my job because I wanted to experience every moment of my baby’s childhood.I followed what I had planned, because these moments are precious and they will never return. I choose to have a bank account full of my little one’s memories than having money in it. The ambitious me still kept bothering me somewhere deep inside, but I was happily raising my girl and doing so much fun together.
When she started going to her pre-school, that was the time I thought I could get back to my career path. I identified and brought back the passion in my life by introspecting on what all I used to enjoy doing. I could not continue my studies or my job, and that is where the Virtual Siyahi (my blog) came into the picture, and I started my own blog site in 2016.
I am a moderate English speaker, so initially, I was not sure about it going on various social media platforms. However, gradually, I started receiving positive responses to my work and was able to convey my message to the people.
This is what I gained in this love affair, and I am happy that I did not miss any of her firsts… the first tooth, the first word, the first crawl, the first step and all those firsts which will last forever. The process of learning still continues for me as in this journey of raising a child, I m also raising myself! This is my forever kind of love story – what’s yours?
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